At this point, you can kiss much of your perspective on your partner and the relationship goodbye.
Valuable time and emotions can be wasted on the wrong person, because you never developed an objective view of who your partner really is.
Even when not fueled by desire, touch can leave people feeling distinctly warmer and more connected to each other.
Touch works like Super Glue: take two people who aren’t opposed to connecting to each other, and touch will make them feel closer.
Traditional Judaism, always an astute observer of the human scene, stipulates that men and women who are not close relatives should exercise extreme caution and sensitivity in expressing affection for one another through touch.
Each time you are physically involved with someone prior to your husband or wife, your sensitivity is dulled.While time brings about some resensitization, this most precious, intimate, and personal part of you has been shared with others before, and it can no longer be as special.With each relationship before marriage, you open the door wider to innumerable comparisons between your future spouse and a past boyfriend or girlfriend.I’ve been married for two years and I really love my wife, but even in our most intimate moments, I can’t help thinking of my previous girlfriend.” Memories of previous relationships have an uncanny way of surfacing when you least want them to, even years after they occur. When you succeed in a relationship, your positive feelings about life are strengthened.But every time you get hit over the head emotionally, feelings of negativity and futility develop.
Since it is nearly impossible that your spouse will measure up in all areas—and since human beings have a strong tendency to focus on what they don’t have at any given time—such comparisons cant do you or your relationship any good.